Each time I said it, I felt different: in high school, I felt comfortable in college, I felt passionate.īoth times, it felt like every other word I said to my partner that wasn't "I love you" was a lie. My college boyfriend said it two days after we were official, and I said it back right away. Within a few months of our relationship, my high school boyfriend said it three times, on three separate occasions, before I finally said it back. And it was probably right for hundreds of other couples across the world that week, too - in a bedroom, out to dinner, after sex, in the library, at the gym, mid-sentence. Just do it when the moment feels right, whatever your personal definition of "right" might be.Ī week later, in her dorm room, the moment felt right. Don't plan it out or preface it with something serious it will make you more apprehensive. I told him there's something freeing about letting the words escape. So I couldn't imagine how painful those few months were for Bryan. Think about how you felt when you broke up with your ex, and you couldn't tell him how you felt anymore it's devastating.
The words - so simple, yet dripping with heavy meaning - weigh on the tongues and hearts of those forced to suppress it for even a second. In my mind, the only thing scarier than saying, "I love you" when you mean it is not saying it. I wondered - besides the potential of rejection, the immense vulnerability and the significant threshold it crosses in any romantic relationship, of course - why he was nervous. "In reality," he said, "I would have said it two months ago. Last month, I had a long conversation in a bar with my friend Bryan about whether or not he should tell his girlfriend he loved her.
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